Minie Dhlamini as finally opened up on her marriage and divorce.
Speaking to Relebogile Mabotja on The Upside of Failure podcast on her 702, Minnie reflected on the lessons learned, from her marriage and the way it ended.
“When people over-sensationalise, over-dramatise, create lies about you, it’s one of the most painful things because I can’t shut from the rooftops to everyone and explain my truth. At the end of the day, I also feel as though I don’t need to. As long as my close family and friends know what the truth is and what is going on, those are the relationships and those are the people that I feel I owe an explanation to. Everyone else will just figure it out when they figure it out,” Minnie said.
“People need to understand that when a marriage ends, it doesn’t end at the announcement or the day before the announcement, it ends long before that,” Minne told Relebogile. “By the time I announced, I had gone through a lot of the processes already. At the time of the announcement, it felt like a really big relief and a weight off my shoulders,” she added, mentioning how she had been separated for a while before making the formal announcement about the end of her marriage.
Minnie says that she feels as though she went into the marriage not knowing herself and not knowing what she wanted.
“I never imagined getting divorced. I always thought that I would raise my kids how I was raised.”
“I just felt like for me, timing was off, I felt like I didn’t know myself. Furthermore, I went on to further lose myself in my marriage.”
Minnie hopes for a second chance.
“I think the failure part is on my part from not being able to pick up what was right for me at a time before I went all the way… You know, in relationships you always know, when you look back, you’re like ‘that was a red flag, and that was a red flag… you’re a red flag!’ I’m not pushing the blame in any way, shape, or form but you’re either a red flag and you’re not acknowledging it or they have red flags and you’re not acknowledging it.”
Minenhle ‘Minnie’ Dlamini married Quinton Jones In 2017, and documented their nuptials in a three-part special for Multichoice.
